Consciously trying to be an inclusive feminist. they/them, aro/ace specs (? girls are v pretty), 25. Uncultured blog. Very unorganized. What is a theme? Punch Nazis.
just found out that San Lorenzo is the Patron Saint Of Cooks and idk what to do w this info bc if i think about it brain go brr too loud but i thought u all should know!!!
@glassfullofsass and I decided it was time that our Ms. Wilson got her own playlist. Includes songs she enjoys and a few favorites she picked up from her parents.
Our Locks and Keys (4919 words) by GlassFullOfSass, cminerva Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Leverage, Leverage: Redemption Rating: General Audiences Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Parker & Harry Wilson (Leverage), Breanna Casey & Harry Wilson, Team Leverage & Harry Wilson Characters: Harry Wilson (Leverage), Parker (Leverage), Breanna Casey Additional Tags: Found Family (aggressive), Team Bonding, Genderqueer Parker, Autistic Parker (Leverage), associated playlist Series: Part 3 of Our Home: Extended Universe Summary: Harry has some questions and Parker…has something that might be answers. Breanna has a bone to pick.
Part of the Our Home: Extended Universe, but can be read on its own.
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Y'all…I wrote this fic, more or less in it’s current form, in two weeks ten months ago. It has taken ten months for sensitivity reading and editing (and for my brain to function again).
I have a lot of very strong opinions on the death of cooking in white north america, and there’s so many possible ties to bring in and they weave a tapestry of (store bought) mayonnaise.
I mean, on one hand you have that cooking was passed off to the poor and to the slaves, so the rich lost their cooking history.
On another, you have that the constant redefinition of what constitutes a “tradwife”, (because the right is not and never has been concerned with preserving any type of structures, but with preserving control), that constant redefining doesn’t come with technical details.
On another, you have that the fall of unions and of the middle class took a rich culinary explosion (filled with gelatin, regret, and also tons of great recipes inbetween the weird ones), filtered out the parts that couldn’t be bought at the grocery store already made, and lost them.
On another, you have the creation of suburbs leading to isolated single-family units rather than expansive extended-family units, where instead of few family members who knew how to cook, every smaller family unit was expected to have a family member who could cook, which led to passing down absolute crap.
On another, you have diet culture, and the responsibilzation of mothers for both their kids’ and their husbands’ obesity leading to taking everything that made food good out of the food, cramming that down people’s throats with lies about “health”, and therefore losing family legacies of cooking knowledge to the monolith of orthorexia.
On another, you have that working any type of food production job automatically makes you more leftist. Doubly so if it’s also a service job and/or you have to see your co-workers deal with working a service job, (ex: as a line cook in a restaurant watching their servers get harassed and threatened constantly).
On another, you have that similar worries and fears are expressed differently in leftist and rightist circles as a result of rightist politicians and media preying on their voters with scams, leading to right wing doomsday preppers who keep canned food for too long, forgot a can opener anyways, don’t know how to grow food or darn a sock, but have literal tons of ammunition. Y’know, that they’ll totally use to defend their house against the raving packs of looters looking for their … silver and gold and other things you can’t eat. But in leftist circles, the same fears and worries become learning how to homestead and daydreaming about forming agri-communes.
On another, you have the fragile construction of patriotism leading to doing things like banning french fries from menus or treating anyone who orders sauerkraut with suspicion, leading to the death of white ethnic food traditions among the right wing.
On another …
My former lab partner likes to call her gardening/canning/cooking “domestic” in a joking way.
I prefer to call my baking “anti-capitalist” in a very serious way.
im pro children having privacy but if you think parents should give kids unrestricted internet access…its not 1999. in 2022 thats legitimately neglectful. do you know how many kids are out here like. watching gore and porn. its not normal or healthy. its traumatic.
Using parental controls to block sites and seeing what websites your 13yo goes to- legit.
Using apps that monitor every text conversation your 17yo has with their friends- fucking invasive and creepy
internet parenting rules are about the same as irl parenting rules for small towns and suburbs
dont leave small children fully unattended. take them to a park and let them play with their friends without hovering over their shoulders have some kind of parental controls and access to kid friendly sites. ask them about their online lives when theyre done playing. did they have fun? what are their friends names? what did they play? if your kid mentions something strange, maybe do some digging to make sure nothing sketchy is going on. plus, you get to talk to your kid and find out what theyre interested in
as kids get older (around 13, though this isn’t strictly a one-size-fits-all situation), give them more freedoms
when kids start getting towards maturity, loosen up on the parental restrictions. maybe let them keep their younger siblings out of trouble and entertained by showing them the games they used to play, but also let them have a few more freedoms to test the waters. some parental locks are still a good idea, but if they want to get social media, this is around when that will probably be happening. remember that outright banning of social media presences rarely helps. your children won’t be learning safe internet habits and most kids will simply find ways to slip through not only the ban, but all restrictions. the internet doesn’t end at your doorstep and it is very very easy to get access to public wifi.
now is also when you give your kids a more detailed version of the internet safety talk. ‘dont talk to strangers’ is a bit reductive, but not fully wrong. dont give out your real name, location, age, or identifying information is a minimum. remind them that even if theyre passing that information to someone they trust, the nature of the internet is that correspondence is not guaranteed privacy.
personally, I recommend having them pick a 'pretend birthday’ to use for logging into websites that require those kinds of checks for age filters and depending on your personal level of comfort, something to celebrate with internet-only friends. something close enough to their real birthday to accurately be filtered by age restricted sites, but not their actual birthdate so that every club penguin, hulu, google, whatever site doesn’t have that identifying information. pick one with them for fun!
old enough to drive old enough to play without a chaperone
this isn’t a one to one metaphor, obviously. 16 year olds are more easily vulnerable to more internet dangers than they are irl ones. predatory money scams don’t check for age, after all, and most kids have at least some access to money nowadays, even if its just a card for subscription fees.
however, this is the point around which up close and direct supervision of your child’s internet habits does more harm to your relationships than good to their safety. keep an open line of communication with your children (show interest and learn about their hobbies and interests. if you are able to understand the spaces they enjoy hanging out, you’ll be better positioned to spot anyone who might try and exploit them. also, you’ll have something to talk to your kid about!)
there are new aspects to online life that you need to be aware of and teach your children
make sure your kids know about malware and data collection and are careful about what websites they go on and what links they click. teach your children that they don’t owe anyone engagement and it’s okay to disengage from toxic or shitty conversations. if your kid is part of the large number of people who want a social media platform of some kind, make sure that they have messaging filters and understand the difference between someone’s genuine concern and someone’s bad faith harassment.
remind your kids that the distribution of child prnography is illegal, even if they are the child in question. it is possible for them to face legal consequences for sharing nudes of themselves online, even if it’s just over text to a partner.
it’s the nature of the internet that kids growing up with new algorithms will probably have a more intuitive understanding of some of the systems than those of us who had to learn them post brain-development. but all those lessons we’ve learned along the way about being scammed or taken advantage of? we can pass those along just fine.
